Merging two families.

Marriage. The beginning of merging two different families. Two different lifestyles. Two different habits.

I am getting married in exactly 8 weeks and I’m a little terrified for this merge. I am beyond excited to marry my fiancé, I love him dearly. However, we are quite different people. We work together but we’ve never lived together to see all that is there.

If any of y’all have any advice, please share!

We discussed what makes a wedding and what makes a marriage. When reading and discussing what makes a good wedding, we talked about how society sees it. The bride’s families pays for almost everything with the grooms family for and only certain things. However, those aren’t laws written down, but yet so often we thing it has to be done that way and only that way. Most people think for a good wedding you have to have a big party to correspond with your marriage. The bigger, the better. For me, I’m a little different than your average girl. I have no planned my entire wedding since being a young teenager. I’m not a bride who wants the focus on me or a big party. I asked to just take the money and go play. My fiancé; however, wants a party and of course our families to celebrate.

To make my wedding the best wedding I want all my handsome as ever fiancé there and my friends and family. Sharing my special day with the people that we love and cherish is going to be the best wedding day for me. Each person is different and there is nowhere in writing where it states to do these things to have the #1 wedding but you do you girl and what makes you and your handsome guy happy.

Next thing, marriage. Marriage is kind of a scary thing to think about. My whole life I have been independent and did what I want. I’m a neat freak and I simple have routines that I’m in an I’m happy with life. However, once I am married and my then husband and I move into together, THINGS ARE GOING TO GET ALTERED. And that thought is what terrifies me. Putting together two lifestyles that we have gotten to see a little bit into, mix them together and boom. It’s going to be hard and it’s not going to be super easy for me. Change is hard, and it takes a lot for me to break routine.

Differences that are going to be hard.

1.      I go to bed early, I love bedtime and getting up early. My fiancé, totally night out and loves to sleep in due to being up so late. Finding that compromise of staying up late and going to bed early.

2.      I love making dinner. He is cool with eating canned ravioli every day. He’s going to learn what a real dinner is. I can’t stand ravioli. Making dinners together or just having an easy dinner night.

3.      Dishes. I do the dishes after every meal or if I’m running behind as soon as I get home from class/work/errands. He doesn’t mind letting them sit in the sink for the whole day or night. Washing dishes in a timely manner but also not being such a clean freak about it.

4.       Lastly, managing finances between two people. Whose bank do we use? How do we budget? How much are we going to save? What are we saving up for? Etc.

These are just a few of the things that for me, is going to be hard and an adjust to. But it’s going to be totally worth it because I’ll be with my best friend making those decision and having him to rely on he relying on me.