Fidelity

This was a good week for class. I truly enjoyed it and I want to start with a claim that if you disagree with me, that’s fine! This is what we discussed in class and how I feel towards the matter. Please don’t think my thoughts are doctrine and that it’s the only way to live, you can choose your own path and live happily ever after.

Fidelity. Fidelity means “faithfulness to a person, cause, or belief, demonstrated by continuing loyalty and support.” When one is married, they should be faithful and true to one another in all aspects; emotional, mental, physical, and spiritually.

My teacher discussed that even with our hobbies that we should do them with our spouses. He shared a story of how two couples would go running together. Couple 1 are XX and couple 2 are OO. Eventually life happens and wife X had other things come up and quit going running. It was down to the three people running. Eventually husband O in the other couple had other responsibilities so it was just husband X and wife O left running. Both spouses were okay with it but over time husband X started looking forward to running with wife O. They would talk and share their lives and he began to notice he was getting emotionally attached to wife O, he wanted to share his news, excitement, and life changing things with wife O instead of his wife. When husband X realized that he decided to quit running with wife O and spend more time with his wife and gaining that emotional connection back.

As you can see, he was starting to create infidelity with his relationship to his wife. Most people think of infidelity as just being a sexual attachment, or simply known as an affair. But it is so much more than that. We discussed in class how we sometimes have different hobbies than our spouses but that we should do them with our spouses.

I’m not set on that aspect because I don’t think I could just simply do everything that my fiancé loves because I have different likes. However, I do believe that we should involved our spouses into the things that we do.

A specific example from my life this week. My fiancé has this girl who just loves on him even though he could care less about her (which is mean to say but it’s fine). Anyways she has been messaging him a lot the last few months and he doesn’t respond. The other day she messaged him again and I told him he needs to tell her to stop or block her or something. He said, “I don’t want to be mean; she says such nice things to me.”  Oh boy, oh boy. That was not the right thing to say so then we had a nice discussion about what if it was a boy who was saying all those nice things to me and I didn’t tell him to stop and encouraged him to continue? He knew he would be upset and then we had this class. We talked about fidelity and how we want to always be faithful to each other. We discussed how we would handle situations that might arise and how we would be open and communicate with each other. We never want to be in a situation that we create a wedge between us.

Fidelity is an important part of a marriage. Society might tell you otherwise due to marriage not being nearly as important as it once was and how it should be.